Overcoming obstacles seems to come easily to some people. Would you agree with that statement, while secretly thinking “Why can’t it come easily to me?” Thoughts like that are never going to help you overcome your obstacles but changing your approach to them will. We are all guilty of thinking from time to time “Why is this happening to me” “What did I do to deserve this”. The truth is that many of the obstacles in our lives have been created by our own actions.
That may be a bitter pill to swallow but taking responsibility for our actions is probably the first step to coping with and overcoming obstacles in our business and our personal lives. There are of course some that we did not create but have to find the way to overcome them anyway.
When I was 13 years old I found out that I was adopted. It was the day that changed my life forever. It was as if my whole world had caved in and I realized that my life had been a lie up to that point. These were the thoughts that I could not share with anyone especially my adoptive parents for obvious reasons. So I kept them to myself and brought them out mostly at night when everyone else in the house was fast asleep. However devastating this news was to me, even in my state of shock, I realized that I had inherited an enormous obstacle and only I could overcome it.
That day I made a decision, a committment to myself, that someday I would find my mother. They told me she had died 3 days after my birth but somehow those words did not ring true and I chose not to believe them. I had some things that most 13 year olds didn’t have – a clear goal – a vision and an indestructable belief that I would overcome every obstacle that society would present me with, to find my true identity and the circumstances of my birth. Above all I would find my own dear mother.
It took me over forty years to find her. I hit many brick walls along the way, secret records, people unwilling to reveal the true facts about my adoption even to the point of hiding my place of birth. Obstacles are there to be overcome and that is why I finally found her 3 days before her hundredth birthday. She made it clear that she did not want to know me or meet me. In fact she basically told me not to bother her again and although I was deeply disappointed at the time, I knew that I had not come so far to let this final obstacle wreck my dream.
So what do you do when you are shunned by your own mother, rejected for the second time?
Well, it was just as devastating and traumatic as that day when I found out I was adopted. The same sleepless nights licking my wounds until one day I decided enough was enough and I picked up the phone and rang my mother. It takes courage sometimes to overcome your obstacles but the rewards can be mind-boggling when you do.
She asked me who I was and I told her in no uncertain terms - "I am your daughter" To my utter joy and amazement she said "Would you like to come and visit me? The rest is history and even more amazing than the first part of the story. If you would like to read more I'm afraid you will have to buy the book lol.
- I am telling you this true story about my life to impress upon you that obstacles are there to be overcome. That is my strong belief and one of the reasons why I have become known to my friends and followers as the number one Queen of Hope“.
- When you really commit to your goals, obstacles may slow you down but they will not stop you.
- Be unstoppable! Commitment, determination, belief, courage – these are the stuff of dreams, obstacles are only a minor bleep on the path to success.
- Never ever ever give up on your dreams